Can you change the way you feel about yourself, can you make new choices and make new decisions?

Yes you can - the reason I know this is because I have seen many of my clients shift from living a life where they felt that they had no self esteem, or very little, but over a period of time working with them have become quite empowered individuals who surprised both myself and themselves!

The cost of having a low self esteem is only really known by those who suffer from it on a daily basis. Even though the effects start from an early age they often slowly accumulate without us knowing, and only get to a point where it becomes an issue after much suffering over one's life. This usually means putting up with it for many, many years.

Most people think it is just their negative thinking that is the cause of this self esteem ‘problem’. Maybe it comes from a past pain or multiple past negative experiences. Either way people tend to focus on their thinking as being the problem and causing the problem. This creates a loop and a cycle, which keeps people stuck living with low self esteem and the associated challenges that go with it.

We become stuck, repeating negative patterns for years and decades, often feeling our internal experience is unchangeable and, as a result, we lower our expectations of what we want for ourselves or what we think is achievable. However, lowering the bar like this in life causes us a different type of pain. And it is this type of pain that sparks a desire for something in life to change. At that point we might buy a book or attend a seminar. And you will only make a change if you have reached this point- because this point is actually the fuel that becomes readily available for you to make the change.

Put another way, our pain can inspire us to live our life in a better, more fulfilling, enjoyable way.

Working with your thinking is obviously really important, but only half of the picture. If our bodies are anchored into defence from past stresses and traumas then this affects our thinking. Most of us have lots of defensive strategies always being activated, so our thinking is continuing to be tipped to the side of reactive, defensive and limited, minor habits. Then you give yourself a hard time for thinking and feeling the way that you do. And so you repeat the cycle once again.

Trying to shift how you feel about yourself with just your thinking is almost impossible, especially if you want the change to be sustainable and long lasting, BUT by learning how to release the patterns first in the body, something remarkable happens. You find that you no longer get stuck in the old disruptive thinking patterns and can live from a new space, one in which you are honouring your unique gifts.

If you realise that you need to work on both the thinking patterns and your body you may want a little bit more information on how to shift your thinking. You may want to download the first chapter of my book “Wellness words, how to think speak and feel great”, since it might give you a few new insights on how you can shift your thinking.

If you want to increase your quality of life, build your self esteem and strengthen your confidence, and are ready to make a powerful positive shift for your life, you need to release the patterns in the body. If you are interested in how we help people, or have any other questions. I invite you to ask me via email or phone or even come on into the practice. We offer a free 20 minutes consultation where you can ask any questions.

I want to leave you with a small story. I had a client who first contacted me to see if I could help her because her friends suggested she come in, but she did not get back to me for a few weeks after our first contact. Curious I contacted her again to see what was going on, she said that she had been weighing up if it was worth the investment. If it was worth spending money on herself.

Living life from a place of very low self esteem, people often don’t believe that they deserve to feel good and if they think about making a change to increase their quality of life they often sabotage themselves. This keeps them stuck in old destructive patterns and, sadly, they often reaffirm that they will be stuck like this forever.

How much better would your life be, once you realise that you do deserve to feel great? 

To get a feel for this answer read some of my testimonials here

And no matter what you decide to do, if you seek my help or not, please understand that you do in fact deserve to feel great!