New Year’s Eve often brings with it ambitious resolutions and dreams for improving our health and/or quality of life. Many people make a great start to achieving this and some people will actually get magnificent results and turn their life around. But, sadly, most will remain stuck in old patterns.
I like to think of the mind like a garden. We all want a beautiful garden but very few of us actually take the time to do the weeding, or simply maintain it, and even fewer people actually take the time to landscape their mind garden. As a result, over time, the weeds begin to grow and grow and very quickly they become overwhelming. And this causes big problems.
They are really getting on my nerves! They keep pushing my buttons! Yuck, I can feel their energy, they are in a really bad state, its getting to me.
We all are familiar with our inner critic. Its that internal voice that we always hear saying negative things. A voice of self sabotage, of limitation and one that likes to play the victim role. Some people have a lot of pain and frustration in their life simply because there inner critic is speaking too often, too loudly.
It is easy for someone to say, stay in the present moment, but doing it is so much harder. Actually it’s quite easy to do; what’s difficult is to stay there for any length of time for it to be beneficial. If you are seeking the present to attain peace because your past is too painful, or you don’t like your current situation, or perhaps you’re not looking forward to something in your future, then it’s going to be almost impossible to stay in a state of peace in the present moment.
We all have many habits and many things that we do habitually. Some weekly, some even daily, a sum total of all your habits create your structure. What is great is that when our structure changes, it creates new openings in our lives. The key here is to look for new openings as you make structural changes.
Its also interesting to note that you feel great when you focus on benefiting others. It is the simplest easiest way to feel great. It also feels pretty lousy when you get caught up in yourself. We get caught up in our own stuff mainly due to our ego, our need to feel important and be loved. Ironically by becoming caught up in yourself you actually disconnect from the greater community
You’re invited to a party. Unfortunately, you don’t know anyone else who is going to be there. Some people at this point will find excuses to get out of this situation. A lot of people will start to dread or think about the worst case scenario and as a result end up feeling worse off. Some people become symptomatic (so they have a valid excuse), others will tell white lies.
The quality of your life is based upon the sum total of all your moments. A moment is essentially the shortest amount of time that our brains’ register. In a moment your whole life can change. Unfortunately so many people live life on auto pilot and habitually move through their day not being that conscious. As a result we are less likely to experience any moments. We move through life by being driven to fulfil our desires.
Where you focus the mind, the energy follows. If you focus on your self, you become selfish or self absorbed, if you focus on helping others, you become beyond what you could possibly imagine.
To be happy, simply help others. What is most interesting about this concept of happiness from helping others, is that it will also make you wealthy in a meaningful and spiritual way.